Are You Personally Accountable?
About a month ago, I wrote a post on how I feel that passion is contagious. Since I started listening to Dave Ramsey, I've noticed that I've picked up an excitement for a lot of the same things he's excited about. I don't think it's because he's my idol (because he's not), but I think it's because the things he's excited about are so darn awesome!
In case you don't know him very well, here's a few of Dave's favorite things:
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Business - Dave runs a 300+ person company that consistently wins "best place to work" in the Nashville area. He does things differently and it's fun to learn about.
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Personal finance - Dave is excited about helping people get their financial life under control so they can build wealth, "Live Like No-One Else" and "Give Like No-One Else".
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Learning - Dave recommends reading at least one non-fiction book every month (I'm failing at this).
QBQ! The Question Behind the Question
Dave mentions many of the same books and authors time after time on his show. His recommendations are darn good ones too, I might add. One of his mentions that I read last fall is called, QBQ! The Question Behind the Question. This book is very good and from what I know, a pretty unique read. The book's author, John G. Miller, explains in the book what the question behind the question is. Before I tell you what it is, let me first ask you a question: When problems arise in your family, among your friends, at school or at work, how do you respond?
Do the phrases, "Who dropped the ball", "Why doesn't that department do their job" or "If she would only do her part we would have gotten the project done" ever come into play? The question behind the question is all about asking yourself, "What can I do to help get this project done" or "How can I train this team to be more productive" or "How can I be a friend today".
Personal Accountability in My Life
I'll be the first to admit it. I'd give myself a C+ in personal accountability. At work, I find myself blaming others for our company's disorganization and problems almost daily. I'm a leader there and what I need to keep convincing myself to do is ask this of myself: "What can I do do help our company be more organized"? Another is: "How can I be a leader who helps my team be successful"? It's a very hard thing to do, but if our company, our team and even myself are to be successful, it's important that I stop blaming everyone else and look inward. I have a lot of stepping up to do before I can call myself a real leader. Here are two failures I made with personal accountability just this past week:
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I failed to reach out to an important client before a deadline because I thought the communication strategy was bad. What I didn't do was come up with a better one before the deadline and execute on it.
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I spoke negatively about my team and our ability to get what needed to get done, done. What I didn't do was spend time training them, pumping them up for "game time" and giving them good feedback on what they did well.
So, everyone, that's personal accountability. Not that I'm doing it, but I am recognizing it for what it is. I'm convinced that recognizing how important personal accountability is and taking the steps to executing on it are the key to success among any individual, team or organization.
Are You Personally Accountable?
So, now I ask you: Are you personally accountable? If not, are you recognizing how important it is that you step up, be accountable and lead your family, your company or your team to a successful future?
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20 Comments
- Daisy says:March 26, 2012 at 10:42 PM
Oh, gosh. I'd be like, a C- in personal accountability with my personal life, some days. Some days I'm better. I always know what I'm accountable for but sometimes I struggle with admitting it!
- March 26, 2012 at 10:49 PM
Yeah, me too. I may very well have been too easy on myself in that C+ grade. Haha, but the point is that we admit it if we're not doing so well and try to do better.
- eemusings says:March 26, 2012 at 11:07 PM
Oh, I'm awful, and I definitely think we all are, more so than we like to admit.
- March 26, 2012 at 11:11 PM
That's what I'm thinking too, but we can fix it!
- Bridget says:March 26, 2012 at 11:09 PM
I'd say B+.. or even higher. I'm one of those people that's feels like, "if there seems to be a problem, it's probably you so you better fix it". Generally if I find flaws in others I usually try to work around it rather than target that as the source of trouble (even if it actually is)
- March 26, 2012 at 11:10 PM
Nice work, Bridget. That's pretty awesome!
- Modest Money says:March 27, 2012 at 12:18 AM
I think it's only natural to try to avoid taking the blame for mistakes, especially in a work environment. When your source of income is on the line, you don't want to be seen as the person always dropping the ball. You do have to be careful though as it can result in others being bitter towards you and losing respect. Personally I'd probably consider myself a B in accountability. I can usually admit my own mistakes, but sometimes it's just easier to blame circumstances or other people's actions.
- John G. Miller says:March 27, 2012 at 7:23 AM
Kraig, thanks! Honored! Glad you enjoyed QBQ! As you know, we have "Flipping the Switch" (the companion book to QBQ! and "Parenting the QBQ Way," too - and "Outstanding!" Personal accountability applies in every area of life! Blessings!
- March 27, 2012 at 7:57 AM
John, thanks for stopping by! I'm going to try and read the rest of your books this year. I'm sure they will be great. Keep up the great work on such a VERY important topic!
- jefferson says:March 27, 2012 at 9:09 AM
hey kraig-- i am getting better at personal accountability. i have always done well at the non-financial items.. but in the past i felt a constant need to reward myself for my hide work-- this led to reckless spending an low accountability. these days, we are getting our financial house in order and stepping up accountability. thanks for the book recommendation.. i will check it out. Also, its pretty rad that the author popped in and commented on your post! :-)
- March 27, 2012 at 12:05 PM
It is pretty awesome that the author came by isn't it? I'm so excited about that. Hope you have a great day!
- bogofdebt says:March 27, 2012 at 11:03 AM
I think I'm pretty self accountable. I generally am overly self critical (or so I've been told) so that might factor into it. I like to make sure things get done at work and that they get done in a timely manner so I'll work to make it happen.
- March 27, 2012 at 12:06 PM
That's great to hear. Don't be too hard on yourself though!
- John G. Miller says:March 27, 2012 at 12:34 PM
Jeff and Kraig: it is my belief that nobody has ever called me rad before. I will take that as a compliment.
- Kris @ BalancingMoneyandLife says:March 28, 2012 at 8:34 AM
I loved this post. Personal accountability is a big deal to me - at work I think I do pretty well. I don't deflect blame when I am responsible. (That said, I won't accept blame for no reason. I'm not a martyr). At home? Well, it's a little tougher. Financially I know my mistakes are mine, I'm just not dealing with them the way I'd like to. So overall, I'd say I rate a B.
- March 28, 2012 at 8:36 AM
I'm glad you liked the post. It's a pretty important quality to remain aware of and work on. I'm glad you're doing well with it and also like your comment about not taking blame for no reason.
- Kari@Small Budget Big Dreams says:March 30, 2012 at 9:48 AM
This post is coming at such a good time. Over the past few weeks I've been getting frustrated that my dad hasn't been calling me. Several times he's accidentally dialed me and said he was in a meeting and would call me back, but he hasn't. It's frustrating, but that's his personality. Last weekend I was complaining to the BF that my dad never calls. Instead of blaming my dad, bf suggested a novel idea..."Why don't you call him?". Me? Call him? Well because he's the "grown up" in this situation and he should want to talk to his daughter. Personal accountability: Calling your father instead of complaining and making the issue a bigger deal then it needs to be.
- John G. Miller says:March 30, 2012 at 11:31 AM
Kari, what a great example of how to ask a QBQ! Instead of "Why doesn't he contact me?" ask "How can I honor him?" You'd love the QBQ! book ... promise!
- Katie says:April 3, 2012 at 9:15 PM
I try to be conscious of my personal accountability but it is definitely so much easier to put the blame on someone else. I don't do it at work, I think I do it more with school work. I procrastinate in that area and then blame the instructors for giving such long or stupid assignments.
- April 3, 2012 at 9:16 PM
Yeah, that happens to the best of us, doesn't it? Haha.